Sunday, February 27, 2011

Today Lets Count Our Blessings

Today we will challenge ourselves to write down 100 blessings that we can count in our lives right now. Many of us (myself included) get so hung up on the challenges we are facing that we forget about the blessing that we have. This prompt will help clear our mind and refine our focus.


Saturday, February 26, 2011

2/26 Pay It Forward

Its that time of the month again ladies and gentleman. Get OUT OF YOURSELVES and go do something for someone else today. Write about it in your journal. I promise you will have a better day if you do this. AND the more you do it the better days you will have. Funny how that works!


2/25 If I Could Turn Back Time

You can not turn back time. That is a fact...but just for today lets pretend we can. What is the one thing you would change and why.


2/24 Verbal Abuse

Oh No She Didn't Even Bring This Subject Up!!

From your findings over the last couple days what did you find out? Are you verbally abusive?

If you answer yes I encourage you to do something about this. Get some help. You have no idea how your words can destroy another person.

Flipping over to the other side, have you ever been verbally abused? If you answer yes write out what was said and how it made you feel. You know its not truth right? If not, then you need to seek help.

People that verbally or physically abuse others do not feel good about themselves. That is not a theory it is a fact. If you are an abuser you need to look at that.
and seek help so that you do not play a part in the destruction of another human being.

Verbal abuse is just as harmful and devastating as physical abuse. The are no physical mark but the scars are deeper.

Now stop reading and write how all of this makes you feel in your journal.


2/23 So ask them!

Yesterday we wrote about how we sounded and what tone of voice we use when we talk to the important people in our lives. A tone can send a message of inpatients, aggravation, disrespect, anger..etc...Words can send even deeper stronger messages. Sometimes it really is not what you say but the way you say it.

Ask the people you are around most often how they feel when you talk to them. Ask them if you say anything that makes them feel bad about themselves or small. Dont be afraid. Ask..

Write everything you find out in your journal today.


2/22 How do you sound?

Today we will write in our journals about how we talk to people. Think about your children, parents, spouse, friends, do you "talk " to them,. What tome of voice do you use? Is it the way you want to be talked to? BE VERY HONEST!


2/21 Finding Peace

yesterday we defined Peace. Today in our journals we will write about a time or times when we felt Peace in our lives. What was going on then. Are you feeling at peace or peaceful now?


2/20 Peace

Today we will look up the word PEACE and write the definition in our journal.
Now write all of the things or situations in your life that you feel Steal your Peace.


2/19 Control Issues

So..Do YOU have an issue with control? Are you a Control Freak?
What areas of your life do you feel the need to control and how do you feel when things and situations are beyond your control.
Freestyle about this in your journal today. Freestyle journaling is simply streaming your thoughts onto the paper without concern of someone one day reading them or spelling, grammar..etc.


2/18 Stop It

Stop making excuses for your behavior. How you act and what you choose to do is only about your own choices. NO ONE else is responsible for your choices.

If you are like me you sometime will cast (blame) your own poor choices on someone else. Example...well I wouldn't have said that if they had not hurt my feelings ...PLEEEAAASE!!! Quit blaming.

Today in our journal we will get painfully honest with ourselves and look at some of the areas in our lives that we are blaming other people when the TRUTH is we have choices on how we act and react to every situation everyday.


2/17 Today

This is not original. Someone posted on facebook the other day and I though to myself. What a great prompt this would be.

Today will Never come again. Be a blessing. Be a friend. Encourage someone. Take time to care. Let your words heal, and not wound. Today will Never come again.

Write this out in your journal and write about any emotions that come or what you feel when reading it. Does it prompt you to action? What is it?


The Truth Will Set You Free But First It Just Might Piss You Off.

Write in your journal a time when the truth made you angry but it was still important to face it and accept it.

2/15 TRUTH

It is often difficult to find truth through all of the many layers that it is hidden under. We often hide from the truth by staying in denial.

Today in your journal look up the definition of what TRUTH means and write it out.

Are there areas of your like that needs truth to shine on them?


In your journal today define the word LOVE. Make a list of 20 people that you love. If you are doing anything special for Valentines Day write about that too.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

The Secret Keeper

Everyone needs a Secret Keeper. Someone you trust completely. You trust them to love and accept you unconditionally , to not judge you, to never tell your secrets and to always be there.

Do you have a secret keeper?

I went most of my life without a human Secret Keeper. I have always had God (who is enough) but now I have someone that is my secret keeper to.

If you don't have one maybe you need to start out being one to someone.

Today we will journal about our Secret Keeper. If we have yet to be blessed with one, we will think about and write about who we can become a secret keeper to. There is no more precious gift.


Saturday, February 12, 2011

What is your Happiest Memory?

Today we will record our Happiest Memory in detail in our journals.


Friday, February 11, 2011


Define the title "people pleaser". What does that mean to you? Are you a people pleaser? Do you please others at expense to your self (time, health, mental health). Time for an honest look. How do you feel about this?Write about this in your journal today.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Lay It Down

Are you ready to lay down the struggle? The first step in doing this is to admit to yourself there is a problem. Then admit it to another person that you trust. Ask them to hold you accountable in your journey to breaking free form this bondage.
From a personal account I can share that the only way I have ever been able to break free from harmful habits and struggles is to lay it down daily to God in prayer. Seeking help from the only source of real POWER is the answer.

Only YOU know what your struggles are. Do NOT keep them a secret. Find someone you trust and share with them today. You are only as sick as the secrets you keep.

Lay It Down!


Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Working on Workshops! Your opinion please!

Your Life Spelled Out will host online workshops stating Summer of 2011.

What would you like to cover?
Any specific areas of your life?
Would you like to include photographer and /or art?

I am looking for feedback so that I can customize the workshops to your needs and request.


Now What To DO

Yesterday we wrote out one of the areas in our lives that we struggle with or that we are imprisoned to. Today we will write in detail proactive ways to achieve victory over the struggle. On Thursday we will talk about several ways to achieve victory of what holds us in chains.


(Tuesday) Struggles

What do you struggle with?

Do your struggle with shedding pounds?
Do you struggle with being true to yourself?
Do you struggle with being a perfectionist?
Do you struggle with eating too much?
Do you struggle with NOT eating?
Do you struggle with relationships??

We all have our own struggles. Today we will write about one of them in detail in our journal. This can be a revealing exercise and a first step to doing something about something that keeps us in chains.


Monday, February 7, 2011

Random Act Day

Today is our Random Act Of Kindness day fro February. Go do something for someone. Get out of yourself. You will feel good I promise.

Write in your journal what you did and how it made you feel.

I am traveling home today on a red eye. I hit the ground running on Tuesday with several appointments scheduled so Tuesdays post will not go up until very late on Tuesday or Wednesday morning.


(Sunday) One New Thing This Year

Today is my birthday. The year between this birthday and my next birthday is a special one as it is my last year that fourty will be in front of the last number. I have decided that this year I will do 49 things I have NEVER done before. I will have you all hold me accountable by posting them here as I do them. This should keep life very interesting!

Today you will write in your journal your commitment to do ONE new thing before your next birthday. Then when you do it make sure you come back to this page in your journal, write out what you did and date it.


(Saturday) So what off your list do you LOVE to do?

Today we will look at the list of skills and things we are good at that we made yesterday and will will make a new list from the original one of the things that we love to do AND we will also make a list from the original list of things we don't now like to do.

For example, on my skill set list would be the following two things:


I LOVE to write. I am good at Networking but Love it?? Not so much!

After you have made your list look at the list of things that are in your skill set or that you are good at that you do not like to do and see what, if anything off that list you can eliminate.

For example, if your skill set and perhaps job involves number crunching but you do not like it and would rather be connecting with people..maybe you need to consider changing careers.

This is just a self discovery exercise. Don't get too worked up over it.


(Friday) What are you good at?

Today we will list EVERYTHING that we are good at. Write all of your skills down in a nice long list. On Saturday we will continue to work on this list so have it in front of you.


(Thursday) Do Over

We all have at least one thing in our life that we wish we had the opportunity to DO OVER. Today write down your one thing. Write down how you would do it differently if you had the opportunity.

(Wednesday) Nothing Changes!

Nothing changes if nothing changes! A simple yet profound statement. Write out what that sentence means to you in your life right now.

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

A Call For Action

Now that you have your NO list, I challenge you to take just one thing that you have said yes to that you should have said no to and SAY NO. It is not too late. You can say no at any time.

If you do this please share with us to encourage all of the other readers that find themselves in the same boat. We need to be there for each other.

Oh and by the way...I said NO to changing my schedule to accommodate a last minute get together that I was invited and expected to attend. This is huge for me. I am such a people pleaser that no is most often too difficult to choke out. But I was able to do this without hesitation. Practice makes perfect! AND I am worth it.


What Can You Do? (Monday)

Today we will make a list of the things we are committed to.

Now look them over and write down all of the things that you said yes to when perhaps you should have said no.

A yes can be harmful anytime that it is at the expense of our health (both physical or mental). For example, a yes to add one more thing to your already stuffed schedule could be harmful to you. A yes to something that you know (in your heart) that you should say no to is most likely going to be a problem for you mentally somewhere down the line. Saying no is often more difficult for women as we tend to be care givers and nurturers by nature. Learning to love ourselves enough to say no is not an easy task but one worth pursuing.